Isn’t it about time?
By Mark Tew
I recently started a new job. It is initially requiring more travel than my family and I are used to. Every time I come home from a trip, my kids seem to be taller, smarter, and more like tiny adults, not to mention all the new things our new little baby can do.
The more time that I’m away, the more I am convinced that time—and not money—is our most valuable asset. Our kids are still young, and if I had a quarter for every time someone told us “Enjoy it, it will go by so fast,” I’m pretty sure I’d be topping off their college funds about now. But I’m already starting to see it happen. They are getting older. I am getting older! The older we all continue to get, the faster time seems to pass.
Bigger & Better
We can always earn more money. We can always buy more stuff. Everything society tries to push on us today is about bigger, better, newer, and faster. The one thing we cannot get more of, regardless of how much we want it, is time.
No matter what point you are at in your life, your time in that phase, period, or circumstance is limited. My wife and I have a young family. We are resolving to do whatever we can during this period to make the most of that time.
Time to make memories
What does that mean? Memories! We now see our job as making memories. In addition to providing food, shelter, discipline, teaching manners, kindness, etc. of course.
I am still looking forward to so much in life, but with each new day I have something new to look back on. Eventually the time may come when we have much more to reflect back on than we have to look forward to. Kids are very much forward looking. But the time will come that they will reflect back on their childhoods. And what will they think? How will they feel?
Last November, my wife and I were able to take a trip to South America without the kids. It was the first time we had done anything like it since kids came into the picture over 8 years ago. The trip is one of my favorite memories. I wonder what I would have to remember from that time had we not gone. Probably just unpleasant memories of an overstuffed Thanksgiving stomach.
Money vs. memories
Where does money fit in to all of this? Am I going to sit here and tell you how money doesn’t make you happy? No way! I believe that money can be a great facilitator of amazing memories. I also believe that using it the right way can significantly affect our happiness.That said, it is not a prerequisite.
I am still very much motivated by money, but I am trying a lot harder now to weigh money related decisions against how it will affect the time I have with my family and my ability to create long lasting memories with them.
We all make trade offs and sacrifices in order to have a better future. Or maybe we are sacrificing our future to have a better now. Either way, whatever your circumstance, try to live in a way that will minimize your regrets and leave you with great memories. (And hopefully a lot of money if you can swing it.)